All babies come to earth with sheer innocence on their faces wondering where they are. I can try to picture their bafflement and being flooded with emotions. The immediate environment becomes cold on first instant as used to their mommy’s warmth. They are then subjected to pain when some defy the rule of squealing while other fluids are sucked from their nostrils and all. If you have seen it on delivery rooms or on videos you will think they are being subjected to torture because they are so small to overwhelm them with all this procedures. But in the end, it’s all part of coming to this world.
One thing for sure that should click to our minds is that if you look further, their tiny hands are tighly clasped. You might think that’s the only thing they are holding onto for support. In their terrified state and all the commotion going on in their world of thoughts. As compared to a person in their drunked stupor, inebriated, rocking back and forth and are all over the place, they have to find a posture that will make them feel composed or grab something to be steady.
So someone said that these babies little fists are a symbol of coming to earth with a purpose. A talent. A gift. And God sends us down holding those things. Some of us open them earlier than others. Some of us later on in life and some of us never do.
It is only you to sit down with yourself and contemplate if you have.
As we grow up, we embrace our teenage and youthful lives in different forms. But most of the time we always want to fit in and not be left behind. Every age has a trend that is cool and somehow you find everyone flowing with the tide. Our era was a bit calm and there are things that were considered like going overboard. But the current generation, the millennials, they have nothing to conserve. They engage in every kind of miscreant activities. Every day is a party day. They never get tired or even have an ounce of subconscious talk to themselves. Starting with heavy drinking, scruffy ghast dressing, acting too cool to care, acting all entitled, talking non stop and even talking back without good decorum. The list is endless. We all have heard of them expecting too many perks on their first jobs, not being focused in life, driving carelessly and engaging on casual sex like it’s no big deal all come so swiftly without a care.
Some will feel like throwing daggers at me right now when they read this but it’s just the truth. Some of us or at least those a bit younger than me can be a little reckless. We see them; Our girls with over made faces, with their screeming lips and goofy pouts, chokers and weird hairdo’s.
It’s mystifying that these girls start engaging in sex while they still are too young and do not fully understand the repercussions of it all. Our boys; All truant with so much energy throw themselves on drugs and sexual abuse with the pressure to exhibit manhood. They do not get that it’s just the 10% of who you really are in the midst of all the hype and that it fades away just like smoke. That sex is not just swapping of fluids and the ogasmo of the moment. They don’t get that ‘You’ as a person, are much deeper. A spiritual being and someone of more value and deserving.
That you have to fulfill your 90% and know your real purpose while still young to start reaping and enjoying real life benefits instead of settling for lust. May be us as Africans do not really know how to tackle this sex topic and that is why we have so many youths going astray. Preaching abstinence without cultivating a deeper understanding of sex only creates closeted perverts.
It is high time we understand and make our young adults understand that craving for sexual pleasure only leads to emotional pain and complexities that are not necessary in life. The emotional roller coaster of unwanted pregnancies or baggage of trying to be the cool kid is not worth it at all. The anxieties and depression after seeing nothing of value has been gained on both parties does not make you a better person. It only leads to growing cold over time as well as emotionless. The best life is keeping yourself from all negativity which includes guzzling of alcohol like there is no tomorrow, draining people and environments, engaging on sexual innuendos and exhibiting self control. Girls must confront the overwhelming stereotypes of sexually provocative body images, whereas males must confront macho images reinforcing masculine control. Re-defining masculinity should be the way forwad for our boys. All a human wants is intimacy. And we can create this by creating an all rounded ecosystem of connection.
Parents should be encouraged to introduce the topic of sexuality and sex education early in a child’s development. How early this occurs is again influenced by the personal values and attitudes of the parents. Parents can also assist as interpreters of negative media images that foster inconsistent and controversial attitudes toward early sexual activity and promiscuity.
In addition, parents are encouraged to become knowledgeable about their children’s social lives. Monitoring children’s activities includes not only knowing where one’s children are, but also who are the friends and peers.
Positive psychosexual development is important in making a successful transition through adolescence. Adolescents need safe opportunities to relate to peers and develop meaningful attachments without bringing harm to themselves.
Let’s not let our generation fall. Let’s all rise together and make this world a better place. Leaving behind our purpose to help those behind us as our legacy.